Comments on: One of These Things is Not Like the Other

By: Mel Dickerson

Mel Dickerson — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 20:13:18 +0000

this post made me cry. so beautiful, amy. you truly have such an incredible gift. i love everything you write! well done.

By: Jaida

Jaida — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 15:23:49 +0000

What a beautiful post. I so appreciate your honesty in writing about the hard stuff. I feel like it has become “the done thing” to write only about how wonderful parenting a child with Ds is, how capable they are, how it’s really no different than raising a typical child. Ha. Thank you for your thoughts, and thank you also for not feeling the need to remind us that you love Sophie regardless of the hard stuff. We all love our kids, but godDAMN is it hard sometimes.

By: Stacey

Stacey — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 05:16:07 +0000

Perhaps she noticed you noticing her(with her cousin) and just knew that you needed to hear it? Sophie couldn’t have asked for a better big sis.

By: Eden Capps

Eden Capps — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 01:25:35 +0000

Hi Amy! I stumbled across your blog as I was searching for some help in planning for a special child that I am welcoming to my regular ed kindergarten classroom in the fall. I was getting discouraged reading a lot of research about the majority of children that come to K have an assistant. My student will not. His story & IQ is very similar to your sweet little girl’s! I was wondering if you could be of any help or support with this process!!!! I am just starting and looking to the web to get myself together for next school year! Thanks in advance for any advice, tips or encouragement that you can offer!

By: starrlife

starrlife — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 11:52:26 +0000

Amy-It does change, it always does with all kids. Now that Kayli is 11 for sure the gap widens but there is a shift in our concept too.
We have a similar situation with cousins except the cousin 6 mos older than her is a boy. She has the best connection with her middle cousin who is 8 (K. is now 11) and it is a lovely one. There is a smaller cousin who would love to break into the sister/cousin connection. sigh…. I remember these kinds of dynamics in my salad years and it was stressful to me. Who’s in, who’s out… Water meets where it will. I love that there are still places that friends can become friends based on affinity not age. There are not enough mixed age play opportunities today.
Anyway- I LOVE this post- it’s poignant and beautiful.

By: Susan

Susan — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 00:15:10 +0000

That’s a beautiful story. You have amazing kids. My daughter-in-law has a handicapped sister and her dad is a widower, so he has total responsibility. Sarah and my son were living right in town, but he took a job transfer across the country. Her dad is feeling abandoned, and Sarah and Mike, who have two youngsters, are trying their best to make the new place ‘home.’ It’s tough. Sarah’s dad is nearly 60, and may not be able to take care of the daughter for too many more years.

By: heather hales

heather hales — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 15:12:55 +0000

oh, what annabelle said, so so sweet.

By: maya

maya — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 13:45:37 +0000

As usual, you made me cry.

Hugs, Amy.