http://girlinapartyhat.com/index.php/2011/06/fear-factor/ Girl in a Party Hat Mon, 02 May 2022 06:16:31 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.40 http://girlinapartyhat.com/index.php/2011/06/fear-factor/comment-page-1/#comment-8140 Sat, 11 Jun 2011 01:04:13 +0000 http://girlinapartyhat.com/?p=3658#comment-8140 amen to that!

]]> http://girlinapartyhat.com/index.php/2011/06/fear-factor/comment-page-1/#comment-8137 Fri, 10 Jun 2011 18:46:08 +0000 http://girlinapartyhat.com/?p=3658#comment-8137 Okay, no comment on Fear Factor (though I agree that parenting is way scarier than anything a TV producer could dream up), but, damn, Amy, that is some punk-rock, kick-ass parenting. I think our kids respect us MORE when we lay it on the line. No made up games, no manipulation, no la-la-land, just hard core reality and the compassion we owe others and ourselves. The truth and love go together. Always.

]]> http://girlinapartyhat.com/index.php/2011/06/fear-factor/comment-page-1/#comment-8136 Fri, 10 Jun 2011 11:09:46 +0000 http://girlinapartyhat.com/?p=3658#comment-8136 Hugs.
I think kids respect when they hear truth, reasonably framed of course. The ring of truth gets attention in a way that platitudes never will.
I’ve never found that I could convince Kayli of needing to do something because it is good for her (do WE respond to that?). Makes me laugh since I spent half my childhood fighting with my mother about practicing an instrument – probably why I am resolved never to let my child play an instrument unless she wants to practice.
As for the Soph’s – well. She’s kind of at that age.
With Kayli I set up routines for the things she HAS to do and pick my battles around the rest. Bedtime we “race” up the stairs (I find games/humor really help move her) and we have a variety of rituals like we have “the list” for morning routine and night time routine that she checks off. LOTS of times when K says NO (for littler things) I deliberately don’t respond, walk away and count to ten and she comes around with an okay Mommy herself from her internal pressure to please. The word co-operation is an active word used in our family and we practice saying “okay Mommy” so that I am clear that she understands that when I ask her to do something that the proper response is okay Mommy and otherwise there are consequences.
It’s a lot trickier when there are two kids to consider I’m sure!
You’re a great Mom.
I have to say that show sounds gross!

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