Comments on: For the Love of Jamie — and Sophie

By: Noan

Noan — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 23:38:46 +0000

“I suppose I’ll be getting what I deserve.” I’m not a big believer in retributive karma. I think Maya Angelou expressed it better : When we know better we do better.

Best of luck with today’s meeting.

By: cate

cate — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 23:07:51 +0000

I hope it goes as well as it possibly can. I’ll be thinking of you.

By: starrlife

starrlife — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:24:19 +0000

Amy- you are way too hard on yourself. You don’t have to be a perfect person to love Sophie or never make mistakes along the way or always feel perfectly balanced about raising her or even how you see her.Think about it- aren’t there times when you look at Annabelle and see her through a negative lens? Shame is the toxin here.
What that principal said was WRONG. Sophie has the right to support in a classroom setting. Thank god she has a lawyer but why the heck should she need a lawyer at an IEP- that is so sad and maddening.
You seem to be on the next level of acceptance and I promise- you will certainly look at Sophie comfortably again. Sometimes folks go through this “my child is really not soooo bad as some” process and it just takes a few more bumps to get to the reality and until you get to reality you can’t really do the whole acceptance thing.
Well- I hope that makes sense.
Hugs and support. And if you get more grief I’m going to fly there and kick some school ass!

By: Sue

Sue — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:17:02 +0000

Surrender it. Then what will happen will happen. It will be the next step no matter what. It will be the right way to go. No matter what. Look at Sophie. The right thing happened when you had her.

By: Cheri

Cheri — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 20:58:08 +0000

Fingers crossed here too.

By: Alisa

Alisa — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 19:27:33 +0000

Another honest and thought provoking post, Amy.
Don’t we all have memories of events we’d like to snatch back, press “re-wind,” as if they’d never occurred. So many damn learning opportunities.

I’ll be holding you in my heart this afternoon!

By: heather hales

heather hales — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 19:14:35 +0000

I really hope all goes well today and that you feel a sense of clarity as you discuss the topics at hand, that you feel in control and a sense of calm.

I’ll knot my stomach up for you so you can try to relax and go in there and be Sophie’s advocate.

*oh and the story about Jamie. Isn’t it amazing how becoming a parent can make you a better person, more aware, more sensitive? Raising a child changes you in ways you never thought it would. Let yourself off the hook about it, you can only move forward.