Comments on: Breathing Lessons

By: Kathy

Kathy — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 21:37:03 +0000

How many people never hear the words uttered to them, in their entire life, “I could hug you forever”? Especially from their mother in law?

Tears in my eyes…..love you all.

By: maya

maya — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 16:25:40 +0000

I’m so very sorry.
You’ve given her a lovely tribute here.
Like someone else pointed out, I love that she is holding the monkey’s hand in the photo.
Please don’t beat yourself up about how things could have been done/what you should have done. It sounds like your girls had a wonderful last day with grandma and that is the most anyone can hope for, whether they knew what the future held, or not.
Cancer can be particularly cruel and fast and that’s all I have to say about that.
I am thinking of you and your family.

By: Cate

Cate — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 21:55:18 +0000

I’m so sorry.

By: Cheri Biggs

Cheri Biggs — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 21:46:45 +0000

So sorry for your loss. You gave your girls a wonderful gift in that last outing with Grandma. They will remember her the way she seemed to wish to be remembered, as a doting and wonderful friend. And for you, it seems obvious that she already knew the things you would have written. She could have hugged you forever.

By: Blue Eyed Greek

Blue Eyed Greek — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 17:33:31 +0000

As a tear streams down my face, at work no less, I cannot help but think of my Grams. I’m 25 years old and while she’s the only grandparent I’ve ever known, I’ve been blessed to still have her around. My grams was my best friend as a child, and is my biggest cheerleader as an adult. Annabelle is a lucky girl to have been her Grandma’s favorite (I am the only granddaughter, therefore the default favorite), and I cannot get over how adorable it is that she’s holding the monkey’s hand.

I am so sorry for your loss and wish you all the best during a time that I cannot even begin to understand.

By: Mary Ellen

Mary Ellen — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 14:27:16 +0000

Amy,
I’m so sorry. I love it that she is holding the monkey’s hand. Definitely a grandma.

By: Robert Polk

Robert Polk — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 12:36:45 +0000

Thank you for expressing these kind and honest thoughts.

I am sorry for your loss.

You have endeared your family to us here; I think about you.

By: sari

sari — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 04:29:20 +0000

I’m so sorry, for all of you. Please give Ray our best too, ok?

By: karen

karen — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 04:08:22 +0000

I am sorry for your loss Amy. Nothing I say will make a difference in how you feel, but know you are not alone. A lot of us have traveled the very road you are now on. Sometimes we have company, whether we want it or not, and other times we are by ourselves, whether we want it or not. All relationships are complicated if we really think about it. How nice that you did have the time for the girls to know their Grandma. In the end that is usually all we have, memories and the love. I know you have both. hugs.

By: rickismom

rickismom — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 21:36:17 +0000

My father -in-law, and my own father passed away recently. My father-in -law was on the verge of death for half a year. Ny husband went to see him, but he was not concious.
My Dad had cancer, but we hoped he would survive it, as he had twice previously. But two years ago I said that I want to visit him when he is well enough to enjoy the visit. And I did. In the end, he died so suddenly that there was no way I could visit.
Moral of the story as I see it:
1. If you live far from your folks, go visit occaisionally. And make up any fights, as you never know what the future holds
2. I don’t think that the “last time is so important. If your mother in law knew you loved her, that is enough.

May you be comforted.
Please tell us something nice about her.